hmmm.. got this from baoyue's blog who got it frmo QQ's blog.. my bf shud read this.

"Couples who do not refrain from premarital sex are not likely to refrain from extramarital sex. Sexual attitudes are not likely to change after marriage. If people engage in sex before marriage, they are more likely to compare, suspect, cheat on their partners, and have subsequent sex partners"

@ when only intimacy (feelings of the warmth of emotional bonding, willingness to share private thoughts with one's beloved) is present, it's friendship(liking).

@ when only passion (physical attraction and desires for sexual involvement) is present, it is infatuation.

@ In a long term relationship where there is no passion or intimacy, it's empty love.

@ In a long term relationship where there is intimacy and commitment (concious decision to be faithful in the long term regardless of the circumstances), it's compassionate love.

@ when someone hero-worships from afar, it's fatuous(lusty) love.

@ when there is passion and intimacy with no commitment, it's romantic love.

@ The most fulfilling type of love has all three components, and Sternberg calls it consummate love.
so what do you think?~ what are you looking out for?~ is it now a better definition for everybody?~